In case you’re just following along now, we have been exploring the 3 S’s… those 3 things to keep in mind when you are trying to find your place. That place could be how you fit into the organization where you work. It could be how you fit in a movement or take action or volunteer your time.

Most of us struggle with finding our place in different dimensions of our lives, so it’s important to find actionable steps you can take. And you know I’m the Positive Action person, so I’ve got some ideas!

As a recap, those 3 S’s are:

  1. Strengths
  2. Start
  3. Stretch

What does it mean to Stretch?  It means to do things you may not have done before. It means to be flexible as the situation changes. It’s all about adaptability (which btw was identified as one of the top skills for 2020 before anyone knew just how true it would be!).

Finding your place can be messy work. It may not be immediately apparent how you can best help the organization that you want to help.

Often, we have an image in our head of how we can swoop in, do some awesome work, and have thank-yous come pouring in. Spoiler alert: It almost never goes like that!

Instead, we may offer to share our strengths and get told no or ignored completely. We may start something and join a group, but because we didn’t feel an immediate connection, we stop going.

This is where we need to lean into the stretch! It’s time to try doing something else, or volunteering for the thing no one wants to do even if its not our strength. It can be uncomfortable to be flexible and adaptable, but the more we do it, the less awkward it becomes!

Finding our place often has nothing to do with us and everything to do with the bigger picture. The folks that are in it only for themselves don’t stick around too long (you’ve probably crossed paths with some people like that!). The people that see how their contribution, however small, is helping the greater good are the most likely to keep at it. And I’m all for more good in the world, especially right now!

#PositiveAction Practice adaptability by re-engaging with a group or offering a different kind of help than you have previously. There’s room for all of us as we find our place together.

If the last few months have been challenging or overwhelming and you want to talk with someone about finding your place in a movement, at work, or in life, I’ve opened up some 30-minute slots (FREE!) on my calendar. Use the contact form to reach out for more details.

This is the third in a three-part series on finding your place, whether in a movement, at work, or in life! See part 1 and part 2 here.

 

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We started to explore the 3 S’s… those 3 strategies to leverage when you are trying to find your place. That place could be how you fit into the organization where you work. It could be how you fit in a movement or take action or volunteer your time.

Most of us struggle with finding our place in different dimensions of our lives, so it’s important to find actionable steps you can take. And you know I’m the Positive Action person, so I’ve got some ideas!

As a recap, those 3 S’s are:

  1. Strengths
  2. Start
  3. Stretch

Today we’re going to explore the shockingly simple, but surprisingly difficult second action to take: Start.

Start somewhere. Start anywhere. Just start.

So often, we struggle most with starting, whether a dreaded chore, a big project at work, or deciding where to volunteer our limited time. Instead of starting, we wait. We wait for a better time or something more convenient or any number of things. And then it gets harder to start.

As I shared after writing my first book, one of the hardest things I had to do to make that dream happen was to actually write. I’d thought about writing for 20 years, but I hadn’t started writing. I needed to just start somewhere, anywhere really… and wouldn’t you know the momentum of starting kept me moving forward toward my goal! It wasn’t an easy path, but if I didn’t start, I would never have seen that dream come to life.

Don’t allow yourself to get overwhelmed by the complexity. Some of the world’s most complex and challenging problems would be best served by having more people start on them. The climate crisis, systemic racism and so many other challenges we’re facing will benefit from people being willing to start. Does changing one light bulb to use less electricity or participating in one protest fix everything? No. But it’s a little bit better than it was before.

How do you become a millionaire? START saving. How do you become more fit? START exercising. How do you find your place? START! It’s one small action after another that eventually gets us where we want to go.

So start somewhere. Start anywhere. Just start. And keep following the path that appears.

#PositiveAction In whatever space you are trying to find your place, just start. Start doing something, anything and see where that takes you.

This is the second in a three-part series on finding your place, whether in a movement, at work, or in life! See part 1 here.

 

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2020 has been a wonderful year if you enjoy a large amount of ambiguity. This is a strength for some people, but for many of us (myself included!), that simply isn’t the case. We’ve seen a global pandemic, parallels between COVID-19 and the climate crisis, and the Black Lives Matter movement take center stage and we’re only halfway through the year.

We don’t have resolution yet on how any of these things will turn out, which creates uncertainty as we face the ambiguity. And if you’re like a lot of my friends and clients, you’re not entirely sure what you can do or how you can be a part of the changes that are happening. Though when in doubt, wear a mask!!

To that end, we’re going to spend some time looking at 3 things you can do when you’re trying to find your place, whether in a movement, at work, or in life! Those things boil down to the 3 S’s:

  1. Strengths
  2. Start
  3. Stretch

You’ve heard me talk about strengths before and I’ll continue to talk about them because they are foundational to your career. Knowing and using your strengths sets you up for success, plain and simple.

So when we are faced with any existential sort of question (What is my place in the movement?  How can I get involved?  What flavor of ice cream should I get?) knowing your strengths is the best place to start. If you aren’t entirely clear on your strengths, I highly recommend the StrengthsFinder 2.0 assessment and book.

Why is knowing your strengths so important?

When you know your strengths, you can offer them to the world. And the world needs exactly the things you’re great at.

If you’re gifted in strategy, let others know that you’ve developed strategic plans and would be happy to help if they need it. If you’re detail-oriented, offer to be a second set of eyes on a document before it is shared.

It should be obvious, but if you’ve never used social media, don’t volunteer to head up a social media campaign. It feels good to be helpful and many of us struggle with saying no, but when you know your strengths, it’s a lot easier to say no to something that doesn’t align with them. You likely can suggest a different way to leverage your communication strength, for instance letter writing.

A note of encouragement: the first time you offer up your strengths to others, it may not be what they need in the moment. And unless they are gifted with the strength of strategy, they may not be able to see where and how in the future you and your strengths may fit. Know that your strengths are extremely valuable, regardless of the point-in-time need. Keep offering them up and you’ll find a great fit for them somewhere and it’s often in even better ways than we first imagined!

#PositiveAction Offer to share your strengths with one person or organization this week and see what develops!

 

This is one of a three-part series on finding your place. We’ll explore Start and Stretch in the next two blog posts.

 

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